My Own Way of Making It Better

It's hard for parents.  Especially out in the world alone, it's hard.

I've started trying to do a thing to offset my generally bitchy attitude towards life, and to make other parents feel better.

I'm trying to notice other parents out with their kids alone (I'm usually alone, my husband is an attorney.  No one ever decided to become an attorney because the hours are awesome), and when I notice them, I tell them something nice.  Some words of encouragement if it looks like they're having a hard time.  A compliment if they're doing alright.  Just something to give them a moment of feeling good about themselves.

I've had people do this to me before - when my kids are screaming or it's obvious I'm struggling, or even just when I'm out and about and everyone is calm.  People have told me I'm a good mom, or I'm doing a good job, or it gets easier, or not to worry about the meltdowns.  It makes a difference.

It makes you feel like, if even only for that moment you have an ally and the whole world isn't against you and your kids.  It makes you feel less alone to know that someone else has been there, and made it through.

Parenting is hard.  I think saying something nice to other parents might make it just the slightest bit easier for everyone.